This had started out as a good week, but yesterday something happened that made me stop to think about all the things we put off, thinking we'll take care of them later.
How often have you said "Some day I'll lose weight and exercise so I will be healthier."? Many of us say that when we are not so busy we'll call someone we have meant to speak to. Maybe we had a disagreement and always figured some day we should talk this over and make it right again. Some of us say "when I save up the money I'll take that trip to Alaska" or wherever it is that we always wanted to go. We always assume that we'll have time to get it done, or see that place, or whatever it is we are putting off. The trouble is, for each of us, our days ARE numbered, and WE don't know what that number is. So we keep doing what we are doing, and put off what we SHOULD be doing.
Is there a family member you have been feuding with so long you can hardly remember why you stopped talking to them?
Is there someone you promised you would do something for, but just haven't gotten around to it yet?
Is there someone who means the world to you, but you have NOT taken the time to tell him or her how VERY much you love them?
Did you tell someone you would do something for them, or take them some place, but you've been too busy, or too self-absorbed, to even think about it recently?
There are no guarantees on tomorrow folks. Life is precious, and the people we love are precious, but they may not be here tomorrow, so if you want to tell them something, or do something, or go someplace with them......THINK ABOUT DOING IT NOW.
Yesterday we were awakened by a call from my youngest brother Jeffrey. He called to tell me that his wife, Patty, the love of his life, the center of his world had suffered a massive heart attack and died last week. His pain was so real, so palpable it took my breath away. I couldn't believe that this incredibly generous, kind person could be dead at the young age of only 59. September 2nd would have been their 39th anniversary. There were many things they had hoped to do together that will never happen now. His sons are bereft at the loss of their mother.
Please folks, don't let loved ones slip away from you with things left unspoken. Don't be too busy to do the things that should be done. And don't pass up the opportunities that life presents to you to share your adventures with the ones you love. Don't put off mending fences, or sharing life's lessons. Don't wait for the other person to admit he or she was wrong. Realize NOW that it really doesn't matter who was wrong, just that you want to make the most of each day you have, and the loved ones around you. I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but better to be offended now than spend the rest of your days regretting what you did NOT do.
I send my love to all of you, and wish you many wonderful days and years ahead with those you love. Treasure them and enjoy all that God has given you.
Bye for now.
Sue ... very sorry for this unexpected loss in your family. How devastating for your brother and his children. May the love and memories they shared over the years bring them comfort during this difficult time. Thank you, too, for the wise reminders.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words. My friend Gail wrote back that the same thing happened to her parents, and that is why she and her husband are traveling the USA in a motorhome, doing what they always dreamed they would someday do.
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